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Brave Therapy™ is a blog site created by Andrea Szasz, a Psychotherapist and Counsellor living and practicing in Sydney, Australia.

One of my favorite quotes, I had to remind myself x

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson
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How to deal with the bullies at the workplace?

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Someone very important to me called in the morning in tears. She had a horrible experience with her manager at work. Some young bully who had a bad day and had to pass on his misery to my loved one.

So I started to think what can we do when something like this happens. Our nervous system has 3 ways of reacting to threats; fight, flight or freeze. When we are in a work environment it is not always appropriate or possible to fight 🙂 or even flight (even if that is exactly what we would like to do), so we are left with freeze most often.

Here are a few exercises that would help you balance your nervous system quickly after and incident with a bully.

-Breathe!!! Even if you are frightened try to focus on your breathing, that will calm your nervous system down so you can remember those great witty answers that usually only come to us when we are telling the story to someone else later.

-Ground yourself! Feel your feet on the ground, this will help you to be in connection with your body and not dissociate or panic, it also helps remind your body that if you need to run you Can!

-Boundaries! Practice having good boundaries, stretch your arms out front and on the side and feel your own safe space. If you practice this when not in a threatening situation it will be easier for you to have them when you are in one. Sometimes imagining a protective bubble can be helpful. Also practice saying no to people or telling what you want or what you do not want.

-Have a good support system. Knowing where to go for help and having support is very important. Family and friends need to know what is going on. They can always send you silly cheerful text messages to cheer you up :0 }

Remember no-one has the right to bully you!

If you experience bullying contact a helpline, or myself on the bottom of this page.

xoxo

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Beautiful morning

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How do you spend your mornings? Do you start the day doing something nice for yourself ?

xoxo

 

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Knowing is not enough. We must apply. Being willing is not enough. We must do. - Leonardo Di Vinci

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