We are not born with a developed self. As babies we do not know consciously what we need and what we want, not even what we feel. We  learn how to regulate our nervous system and our affect via our primary attachment relationship. Our brains get wired via emotional and sensory interactions with our primary … read more

Attachment theory was first developed by Bowlby (1979), using empirical research of case studies and interviews about parents’ childhood relational histories (Bretherton, 1992). He was also influenced by etiology and psychoanalytic object relational ideas. Almost simultaneously, but independently of Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth started to develop security theory, which submitted that children must develop secure dependence … read more