How to BRAVE the Holiday Season   The holiday season is the time of the year when there might be some extra relational demands for us. While the festive season is generally a happy time, the reflections and celebrations can also be challenging. There are expectations; from family members with whom we may share some complicated history, … read more

Guest post from the Rebel Fairy In celebration of Mother’s Day and all the love and generosity our mothers may give us, let’s send some acknowledgment to the Mother of all Mothers, Earth! There isn’t anyone as patient, forgiving and generous as Mother Earth. It’s quite incredible to think about how literally everything we need … read more

Strange Situation, A mother’s journey into the science of attachment I love this book! As a researcher and a clinician with a special interest in trauma,  attachment and body-mind connections, I was excited to listen to the audible version of this book. Attachment theory become part of pop psychology and seems to be everywhere in … read more

How to BRAVE the Holiday Season   The holiday season is the time of the year when there might be some extra relational demands of us. While the festive season is generally a happy time, the reflections and celebrations can also be challenging. There are expectations; from family members with whom we may share some … read more

Hello Brave Friends, Our relationships give us most of our joys – and most of our sorrows. They can comfort and lift you, and they can stress and hurt you. As we deal with the coronavirus, it’s more important than ever to have solid, healthy, fulfilling relationships . . . and to mend and resolve … read more

Hi there, dear Brave Therapy™ friends and clients, I hope you are all safe and healthy and somewhat adjusted to the current changes to our lives. While it has been a big, stressful and somewhat painful change there has been so many beautiful, generous offering of resources out there. I am sure you have been … read more

Somehow just wishing Happy New Year does not fit today. Our country is burning. The Earth is in distress, I think she might be outraged. For many of us, loved ones; family  and animals are in danger of the fires. It is hard to celebrate. So to bring Joy to myself today,  I am choosing … read more

How to BRAVE the Holiday Season   The holiday season is the time of the year when there might be some extra relational demands of us. While the festive season is generally a happy time, the reflections and celebrations can also be challenging. There are expectations; from family members with whom we may share some … read more

Psychotherapy helps us to develop a positive outlook for the future. Resolving past traumas, less then nurturing experiences and attachment disruptions is the main aim of therapy. Being heard, seen and supported in emotionally sensitive way can help to connect to our positive sense of self (Meares, 2000). Learning to relate via the safe containment … read more

We are not born with a developed self. As babies we do not know consciously what we need and what we want, not even what we feel. We  learn how to regulate our nervous system and our affect via our primary attachment relationship. Our brains get wired via emotional and sensory interactions with our primary … read more

Attachment theory was first developed by Bowlby (1979), using empirical research of case studies, and interviews about parents’ childhood relational histories (Bretherton, 1992). He was also influenced by etiology and psychoanalytic object relational ideas. Almost the same time, but independently of Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth started to develop security theory, which submitted that children need to … read more

We’ve all had moments when our mind is calm, loving, happy, present, and awake to stillness and possibility. But for many of us, that quickly gets covered over with daily stresses, distractions, fears, and regrets. In Dr. Rick Hanson’s new online program, Neurodharma, you’ll explore seven characteristics of the wisest people who’ve ever lived, and … read more

How to BRAVE the Holiday Season   The holiday season is the time of the year when there might be some extra relational demands of us. While the festive season is generally a happy time, the reflections and celebrations can also be challenging. There are expectations; from family members with whom we may share some … read more

As a psychotherapist, I find that the most common reason clients come to therapy is related to unhappiness in their relationship. Sometimes there are simple communication problems that can be changed in a few sessions, but more often there are deep-seated issues.  Our early experiences in life can create patterns of relating that last through … read more