Strange Situation, A mother’s journey into the science of attachment I love this book! As a researcher and clinician interested in trauma,  attachment and body-mind connections, I was excited to listen to the audible version of this book. Attachment theory has become part of pop psychology and seems everywhere in popular media. I often hear … read more

Hello Brave Friends, Our relationships give us most of our joys – and most of our sorrows. They can comfort and lift you, and they can stress and hurt you. As we deal with the coronavirus, it’s more important than ever to have solid, healthy, fulfilling relationships . . . and to mend and resolve … read more

Psychotherapy helps us to develop a positive outlook for the future. Resolving past traumas, less then nurturing experiences and attachment disruptions is the main aim of therapy. Being heard, seen and supported in emotionally sensitive way can help to connect to our positive sense of self (Meares, 2000). Learning to relate via the safe containment … read more

We are not born with a developed self. As babies we do not know consciously what we need and what we want, not even what we feel. We  learn how to regulate our nervous system and our affect via our primary attachment relationship. Our brains get wired via emotional and sensory interactions with our primary … read more

Attachment theory was first developed by Bowlby (1979), using empirical research of case studies and interviews about parents’ childhood relational histories (Bretherton, 1992). He was also influenced by etiology and psychoanalytic object relational ideas. Almost simultaneously, but independently of Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth started to develop security theory, which submitted that children must develop secure dependence … read more